Do you ever get that feeling of ‘missing out’?
It’s uncomfortable isn’t it? I bet we all recognise that feeling, and we’ve probably all carried it from school… the feeling of not being in the ‘in-crowd’, of not going to the right places, of not hearing all the cool gossip…
You might remember me writing about missing-out just recently when my introverted teen shared his “fun” fair story with me and it’s something I talk about with clients a lot too; what does it mean, what does it tell us and how can we think about it differently.
It’s often social media that brings up the feelings of missing out…
Of course, it’s designed this way;
- what if I miss out on clients?
- what if I miss out on a friend’s big news?
- what if I’m not in the right group with the right people?
Is it me, or does all that sound like scarcity and fear? Missing out sounds like a gap, a loss… but it’s just words.
🤔 What if, instead, if felt like an opening, an opportunity?
🤔 What if ‘choice’ is the answer?
🤔 What if, first of all, you choose what YOU want to do, feel, be?
And then YOU know when the funfair is next in town and everyone else thinks you’re ‘missing out’, it could be an opportunity to take time out whilst the others are out of your hair, taking their opportunity to seek out some noisy adrenaline?!
As business owners we need to be looking outside of social media
Recently I’ve been thinking about how to move away from social media, cutting right back on this kind of marketing* and finding new ways to connect with potential clients… and then I got so many missing-out feelings!
Eek, what if I missed out on work, what if I lost followers, what if…??
Let me share with you the questions I’d be asking a client if she came to me with this:
- what if you thought about it the other way around?
- what opportunities could arrive if you make this choice, create this space?
- and also, what will you miss-out on if you don’t make this choice?
If you’re having ‘missing out’ feelings right now, where can you see opportunity instead? What will you choose to do, and NOT to….?
Here’s what I’ve chosen to focus on this year:
🌟More in-person vision board workshops (near Clitheroe, or if you’d like one for your team, I can come to you) 🌟 you’ll not be missing out if you don’t come, you’ll be taking the opportunity to do something wonderful with your day and if you want a vision board, you’ll make one when you’re ready.
🌟More Explore Hours – the energy of my 1-1 hour is just awesome – if you’re new to coaching, this is a great way to experience just how powerful it can be, simply book your hour here. It’s also the best way to check out how I work if you’re thinking of booking a longer coaching package with me 😘 you’ll not be missing out if you don’t book an Explore Hour, there are always other opportunities to try out coaching, with me or someone else, you’ll do it when it’s right for you.
🌟Sharing by email – you can sign up to my weekly-ish sparks of self-belief & possibility right here, and you’ll not be missing out if you don’t read my letters, you’ll be taking the opportunity to read something else or, just do nothing for five minutes.
And here’s what I’m choosing not to do:
- I’m choosing not to feel any pressure to be on social media.
- I’m choosing not to start work with any new clients before May 2022 (although if you’re ready to talk about 1-1 or accountability starting mid-May onwards, it’s very likely you’re my kind of person and so you can book a no-strings virtual brew just here)
- I’m choosing to seriously limit the group events I go to, online or for real, and my hours on zoom too.
*when I AM marketing, I’m thinking lots about how Karen at Goodness Marketing encourages me (and all of us) to do it in a feel-good, ethical way, with zero scarcity or hustle.